Money can buy lobster risotto, but, you know, I can't think of a single fairy tale which mentions lobster risotto. Money can buy you a rehearsal dinner at La Expensiva, but, rack my brains as I might, I can't think of a single rehearsal dinner mentioned in all the Brothers Grimm, to say nothing of holding it one at an expensive restaurant.
I'm pretty sure I've read about flowers at weddings, but I can't think of a work of fantasy which involves florists. By way of contrast, I can think of any number of myths and legends which held that the flowers took care of themselves.
Knowing you, I don't think your heart is set on a middle-class conformity. What you want is the "Storybook" part, not the "Perfect" part. I'm pretty well convinced that one can manage the "Storybook" part with all of a spouse, a clean dress in your choice of colors, a handful of fresh-picked wildflowers, a public park, an officient, a Commonwealth of Massachusetts marriage license, and a sense of dignity. Everything additional is gravy.
So cling to your values and your aesthetics. If you want a Storybook Perfect wedding, you have to keep track of which storybook. But if you know which is your story, bemusedly blowing off trappings-pushers who are trying to sell you things which aren't in your story is much easier.
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Money can buy lobster risotto, but, you know, I can't think of a single fairy tale which mentions lobster risotto. Money can buy you a rehearsal dinner at La Expensiva, but, rack my brains as I might, I can't think of a single rehearsal dinner mentioned in all the Brothers Grimm, to say nothing of holding it one at an expensive restaurant.
I'm pretty sure I've read about flowers at weddings, but I can't think of a work of fantasy which involves florists. By way of contrast, I can think of any number of myths and legends which held that the flowers took care of themselves.
Knowing you, I don't think your heart is set on a middle-class conformity. What you want is the "Storybook" part, not the "Perfect" part. I'm pretty well convinced that one can manage the "Storybook" part with all of a spouse, a clean dress in your choice of colors, a handful of fresh-picked wildflowers, a public park, an officient, a Commonwealth of Massachusetts marriage license, and a sense of dignity. Everything additional is gravy.
So cling to your values and your aesthetics. If you want a Storybook Perfect wedding, you have to keep track of which storybook. But if you know which is your story, bemusedly blowing off trappings-pushers who are trying to sell you things which aren't in your story is much easier.
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