Believe it or not, just the fact that you actively noticed you were getting hyper-emotional can have a tremendously positive long-term effect.
There's a book called The Power of Now that helped me a ton. A lot of it's your standard self-help mumbo jumbo, but one thing that I did find helped me was the recommendation that when you have an emotional attack (or in my case, a nice bout of depressive melancholy) that you recognize is disproportionate to the situation, don't try to change it. Don't say "I shouldn't be feeling this way," because that brings on the wonderful guilt cycle with which we're all so familiar.
However, you can *notice* that you're feeling that way. Allow it to happen, and observe it as it happens. So there's no guilt from trying to actively change what you're feeling, but the awareness of it accomplishes several things:
1) Even though you're emotional state is askew, being aware of that fact is a good guard against making irrational decisions or taking drastic action during this time.
2) Anything that keeps you actively in the present tense instead of the past (regret) or future (worry) is a good thing.
3) Slowly but surely, just the fact that your mind is observing the emotional spike will, in time, help to reduce the frequency and severity of said spikes. I'm not sure why, but it does.
I've found this has helped me a lot. That, and my sweet, sweet, medication. :)
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There's a book called The Power of Now that helped me a ton. A lot of it's your standard self-help mumbo jumbo, but one thing that I did find helped me was the recommendation that when you have an emotional attack (or in my case, a nice bout of depressive melancholy) that you recognize is disproportionate to the situation, don't try to change it. Don't say "I shouldn't be feeling this way," because that brings on the wonderful guilt cycle with which we're all so familiar.
However, you can *notice* that you're feeling that way. Allow it to happen, and observe it as it happens. So there's no guilt from trying to actively change what you're feeling, but the awareness of it accomplishes several things:
1) Even though you're emotional state is askew, being aware of that fact is a good guard against making irrational decisions or taking drastic action during this time.
2) Anything that keeps you actively in the present tense instead of the past (regret) or future (worry) is a good thing.
3) Slowly but surely, just the fact that your mind is observing the emotional spike will, in time, help to reduce the frequency and severity of said spikes. I'm not sure why, but it does.
I've found this has helped me a lot. That, and my sweet, sweet, medication. :)