The people who told me that being poly "never works" and "can only lead to heartache" are still freinds... and in their own blessed way, they were trying to prevent me from hurting. That, I appreciate... some issues for some people are always going to invoke the Eyore response.. (its doomed, it'll never work...)

However my never and your never are two woldly different things... my never was based on societal norms and ingrained patterns... your never seems to be very short-sighted and mean spirited... never love or be loved? Preposterous! No one who knows you, even as little as I do, all things considered, could ever think you were incapable of loving... and if you can love, you can be loved.

I'm damn glad you shook their predictions off, and proved them wonderfully wrong!