What Rob said. Also, I was in the SCA many years ago, but at that time it revolved around the (mostly male) fighters. A man who didn't fight, or a woman unconnected to a fighter, had a great deal of difficulty fitting in and finding a place. In my opinion, an unaccompanied male fighter will fit in more quickly than an unaccompanied female.
That said, Beth and I had a pretty good time there for about two years. I never fought, but I enjoyed the feasts, the dancing, and the bardic circles. Beth enjoyed the cooking and crafts. We finally left because we felt we had been treated unfairly by the local baron and leaving was the only way to express our discontent. No elections.
My experience has been that it frequently takes a significant amount of time, on the close order of several years, to make a place in a small social group. (Beth and I are still working on finding a place here after two and a half years. (g)) If the activities are worthwhile to you, go ahead and hang in there and spend the time. Otherwise, taper off gradually as you find other activities that are more fun.
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That said, Beth and I had a pretty good time there for about two years. I never fought, but I enjoyed the feasts, the dancing, and the bardic circles. Beth enjoyed the cooking and crafts. We finally left because we felt we had been treated unfairly by the local baron and leaving was the only way to express our discontent. No elections.
My experience has been that it frequently takes a significant amount of time, on the close order of several years, to make a place in a small social group. (Beth and I are still working on finding a place here after two and a half years. (g)) If the activities are worthwhile to you, go ahead and hang in there and spend the time. Otherwise, taper off gradually as you find other activities that are more fun.