The hardest thing in the world for us do-be types is to say no. But that's how you end up with a month (mine was December) when you have so many things to do and places to be and favors to render that you can't even THINK, and you feel like crying ALL THE TIME.
I have Made A Vow, and my husband says he'll help me keep it, that I will specifically REDUCE the things that I volunteer for. And it's totally not fair that you are generally reducing the fun things, like baking cookies, or (in my case) designing calendars - or even, giving rides to friends. But unfortunately, in this life, we can't reduce the un-fun things (like work, or dealing with banks). And SOMEthing needs to be reduced. And even if seeing my friends or going out ballroom dancing with my husband or whatever IS fun, in the end it takes energy, and sometimes I'm much better off saying No right at the beginning, staying home, and reading a book. (And doing MY back exercises *sigh* your neck, my back)
And volunteering to help friends? I feel like a heel sometimes, not immediately saying that I'll help, but I have to keep telling myself that there are other people in the world besides me who can help, and that it won't help ANYbody if I jump in and do everything and then have a nervous breakdown. (I watched my mother do that - I do NOT want to go there.) It sucks, but the only person who can prevent that breakdown is me.
*sigh*
I am very sorry that you are having such a nasty time. I REALLY sympathize.
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The hardest thing in the world for us do-be types is to say no. But that's how you end up with a month (mine was December) when you have so many things to do and places to be and favors to render that you can't even THINK, and you feel like crying ALL THE TIME.
I have Made A Vow, and my husband says he'll help me keep it, that I will specifically REDUCE the things that I volunteer for. And it's totally not fair that you are generally reducing the fun things, like baking cookies, or (in my case) designing calendars - or even, giving rides to friends. But unfortunately, in this life, we can't reduce the un-fun things (like work, or dealing with banks). And SOMEthing needs to be reduced. And even if seeing my friends or going out ballroom dancing with my husband or whatever IS fun, in the end it takes energy, and sometimes I'm much better off saying No right at the beginning, staying home, and reading a book. (And doing MY back exercises *sigh* your neck, my back)
And volunteering to help friends? I feel like a heel sometimes, not immediately saying that I'll help, but I have to keep telling myself that there are other people in the world besides me who can help, and that it won't help ANYbody if I jump in and do everything and then have a nervous breakdown. (I watched my mother do that - I do NOT want to go there.) It sucks, but the only person who can prevent that breakdown is me.
*sigh*
I am very sorry that you are having such a nasty time. I REALLY sympathize.