Suggestion: pick a battle, just one point that's really important to you, and when they get on your case about it, turn it right back at them. Say on your own behalf, "Well, this is just the way I am and you're going to have to deal with it." And then shrug, and walk away, just the way they do to you.
As long as you pick your issue carefully, it'll be hard (not impossible, and you'll have to be prepared for that) for them to accuse you of "selfishness". When they do, point out that you've bent over backwards to be accomodating to their little idiosyncracies, and it's time the road went both ways for once. And then just go back to your work and let the storm rage over you.
See, the thing is, you can't ask for fair treatment from people like that -- they've already proven to you that this doesn't work. So you have to TAKE it for yourself, and make it stick. As long as you're asking their permission to be treated nicely, they'll keep right on ignoring you.
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Date: 2004-11-10 09:01 pm (UTC)As long as you pick your issue carefully, it'll be hard (not impossible, and you'll have to be prepared for that) for them to accuse you of "selfishness". When they do, point out that you've bent over backwards to be accomodating to their little idiosyncracies, and it's time the road went both ways for once. And then just go back to your work and let the storm rage over you.
See, the thing is, you can't ask for fair treatment from people like that -- they've already proven to you that this doesn't work. So you have to TAKE it for yourself, and make it stick. As long as you're asking their permission to be treated nicely, they'll keep right on ignoring you.