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ladyspriteSo I was talking with a friend a little while ago, and the conversation came around, through a particularly indirect but interesting path, to first crushes, and celebrity crushes. It was amusing and entertaining at the time, but it left me thinking - in particular, thinking about the fact that I couldn't remember my first celebrity crush.
Oh, there are plenty of movie stars and public figures that I've been sweet on over time, but I honestly can't remember being in junior high or early high school and swooning over any particular star.
Partly this is because I didn't start crushing and falling in love until.... disturbingly, well after I started dating. I had my first boyfriend when I was 14, but that was mostly because I thought he was an okay guy, and when he asked me on a date I figured that saying yes was the right thing to do. We were teenagers, we were supposed to go on dates and make out and stuff, right? And after that, most of the guys I dated in high school I just went out with because I was afraid if I didn't they wouldn't be my friends anymore. It wasn't until just before college that I started actually being romantically interested in the people I got involved with.
More than that, though, I realized that I *had* had crushes, at least once I started actually noticing the opposite sex as anything other than a source of car, pizza, movie tickets, and a weekly AD&D game that all might go away if I didn't let them kiss me. They were just all on fictional characters. Not movie stars or musicians or anything like that; not even TV characters - most of my daydreaming was directed at figures from my favorite novels (though I have to admit that, while he wasn't a book character, Nightcrawler *did* feature pretty high on the list). Even today, I'm more likely to swoon over a particular character than the actor playing them.
I have no idea whether this Means Anything, about my weirdness versus mainstream-ness, or my media focus being more on the written word versus visual entertainment, or, well, anything. But it's kind of amusing and interesting to think about on a quiet day at work, if nothing else. And it does make me curious about my friends.
So, fess up - first crush? Classmate, celebrity, fictional figure, other?
Oh, there are plenty of movie stars and public figures that I've been sweet on over time, but I honestly can't remember being in junior high or early high school and swooning over any particular star.
Partly this is because I didn't start crushing and falling in love until.... disturbingly, well after I started dating. I had my first boyfriend when I was 14, but that was mostly because I thought he was an okay guy, and when he asked me on a date I figured that saying yes was the right thing to do. We were teenagers, we were supposed to go on dates and make out and stuff, right? And after that, most of the guys I dated in high school I just went out with because I was afraid if I didn't they wouldn't be my friends anymore. It wasn't until just before college that I started actually being romantically interested in the people I got involved with.
More than that, though, I realized that I *had* had crushes, at least once I started actually noticing the opposite sex as anything other than a source of car, pizza, movie tickets, and a weekly AD&D game that all might go away if I didn't let them kiss me. They were just all on fictional characters. Not movie stars or musicians or anything like that; not even TV characters - most of my daydreaming was directed at figures from my favorite novels (though I have to admit that, while he wasn't a book character, Nightcrawler *did* feature pretty high on the list). Even today, I'm more likely to swoon over a particular character than the actor playing them.
I have no idea whether this Means Anything, about my weirdness versus mainstream-ness, or my media focus being more on the written word versus visual entertainment, or, well, anything. But it's kind of amusing and interesting to think about on a quiet day at work, if nothing else. And it does make me curious about my friends.
So, fess up - first crush? Classmate, celebrity, fictional figure, other?
